The Smiths and the Rileys

In the summer of 1867, Tarleton Smith, 25, a farmer near Owenton, Kentucky, went to town to buy seed. He finished his purchases and as he started to cross the street, he heard approaching hoofbeats on the turnpike. The ride was coming fast, and soon Tarleton saw a girl in a " red saque" streak by, her eyes were intent on the road ahead. She had light brown hair and in the brief time of her approach and passing, Talt saw that the girl was spirited and pretty. 

"That's the girl for me, " he said aloud to himself. 

He had been waiting for the right girl. He learned that she was Rebecca Riley (Becky), 15, the eldest  of the the four daughters of William Riley, Owenton's miller. Riley was a widower. His wife Joanna Hancock Riley, had been dead for twelve years. He had never remarried. The girl's mother, he learned, had died after or during the birth of her fourth child. 

Grandma Becky always maintained that her mother, Joanna Hancock, was a descendant of John Hancock, that Boston merchant who grew wealthy from smuggled goods and whose flourishing "John Hancock" is the first name among the signers of the Declaration of Independence. 

Talt and Becky Riley were married before the year 1867 was out. About a year later, on October 24, 1868, my mother, Joanna Frances, named after her grandmother, was born. They called her affectionately, Joe. 

The only story I recall being told about my mother's childhood in Kentucky, concerns a near-serious accident that happend when she was perhaps three years old. A large fireplace in the front room furnished heat for the Riley's small house. Mama, it seems loved to sit on her chair in front of the fireplace. One evening the 3 year old rocked too hard and toppled into the fire. Before she could be pulled out, her hair was burned, leaving a large bald spot. When I was a child I was fascinated by this story and frequently when Mama finished dressing to go out, she would casually ask me to see if "my bald spot" was showing.

About ten years and three children later, the Tarleton Smiths, like a great number of southern families, left Kentucky to find better farmland out West. 

They drove in a wagon to Missouri. Going through Columbia Missouri, where Missouri University was about to celebrate its fortieth year, Becky begged Talt "to setter here" and thus assure a college education for their children.

Unfortunately, her yearning was ignored. None of their ten children, except Joe, was ever to see the inside of a college. 

The farm the Talt boughtwash on father west of Columbia in Pittsville, a wide place in the road near rather small town of Holden, Missouri. 

From the first, Grandfather Smith was homesick for Kentucky. He wished they had not come to Missouri. Shortly, they "sold out" and returned to Owenton. But five years later, they made the move back again to Missouri, and this time it was permanent. 

Seven more children were born: Lucy, Riley, George, Elizabeth, Mary (Maymie) , Worthy, and the baby of the family, Winifred, who died of diphtheria she she was two years old. 

The new farm, with the hilltop house and view, was northwest of  Holden, and the Smith family became part of that community . They became active in the Baptist church of Holden. Grandma Becky, however, rarely went to church. The children nearly always brought friends home for Sunday dinner which she prepared. Talt attended church, but he was not deeply interested in religion. I at least, never knew him to make any comment about church matters. 

Talt though, bought a parlor organ and my mother learned to chord as they gathered around the organ to sing. The young Smiths loved to sing. 

My mother recalled that her mother had always subscribed to the Kansas City Star. In the evenings, after Grandmother's long day of work and the children were in bed, she would read the paper often until midnight. 

Grandfather had a smokehouse where he hung the hams which he sugar-cured in the Kentucky way. On the east side of th cottage was Grandma's flower bed of multicolored moss-roses. Children, grandchildren and great grandchildren could be found with their parents coming to Grandma's and Grandpa's off and on during the summer. 

In the front room of the house Grandfather had hung a large picture of William Jennings Bryan, the repeatedly unsuccessful Democratic candidate for president, whom grandfather repeatedly voted for. 




Helen Jo Crissman Life Story, pgs 6-9

We Come From Crissmans




The Pennsylvania Crissmans were of German descent. They were farmers and one of their crops was sugar cane. They made the cane into molasses then hauled the molasses over the mountains west to Pittsburgh where they sold it to whiskey-makers. 

Grandfather, David Schmick Crissman, was born in Sinking Valley, PA. He married Mary Magdelene Thompson, an orphan, who had been reared by a Presbyterian family named, Fleck. The Flecks also had come from Schleswig- Holstein, which at times, had been under Swedish, Danish, or Prussian rule but it is generally conceded to have been under German rule at that time.  

In 1850, after the birth of their fourth child, David and Mary Crissman, decided to go west. Only two of their children had survived infancy and it was these two children who set out with their parents for St. Louis, MO. 

There, Grandfather got a foreman's job working on the building of the Missouri Pacific Railroad. After two years, he had enough savings to buy a farm. He again set out West, where he found what he wanted near Clinton, in west-central Missouri. His farm was about four miles north of Clinton. There he built his home. He ordered lumber from St. Louis to to be sent via the Missouri River to Booneville. When word came to Clinton of the lumber's arrival, Grandfather would hitch up his team of John and Jerry- an ox and a horse- and drive his wagon the 110 miles from Clinton to Booneville and bring his lumber home. There he built a barn and an exact replica of the Crissman family home back in Pennsylvania. 

Flowers were soon growing . An apple orchard began producing. And soon at the Clinton Fair each fall, Crissman apples were taking prize in the category of " Greatest Variety". My father could name more than 40 varities that had been in his father's orchard. 

Missouri, a border state, was largely southern and Democratic. But Grandfather David Crissman, when living in St. Louis had read a Republican paper, The St Louis Post Dispatch, and he continued his subscription to it when he moved to Clinton. He was, for some time, the only Clinton subscriber to the St Louis Post Dispatch. Also, it is said that David Schmick Crissman, was the only person in Henry County to have voted for Abraham Lincoln.  

No Lutheran or Presbyterian church had as yet been established in Clinton, so the Crissmans joined the Methodist Episcopal church there.

After the birth of her twelfth child, Grandmother Mary became an "invalid" , a then not uncommon approach to evading further child-bearing. When Grandfather and the older boys left for the orchards and fields, Grandmother would get up and Frank, her tenth child, stayed home to do the housework. With her little pug dog trotting alongside, Grandmother would lend Frank a hand. Grandmother and Frank became great pals. 

Frank not only did the housework, but Frank was the breakfast cook as well. He would make pancake batter and pour it onto two griddles. Simultaneously, with one griddle in each hand he would flip the flapjacks into the air to turn them. 

Late in 1900, shortly before Grandmother Mary died, my father, now a married man with his own household, took me, hid first child (Helen Jo Crissman born May 17, 1900) to Clinton too see Grandmother. After her death, Grandfather went to live with his youngest son, David (Schmidt Crissman b. September 20, 1870).  Grandfather, though, made occasional visits to us, and we always looked forward to his comings. He died in 1911 , age 86.






- Helen Jo Crissman , Life Story pgs 3-5

Joanna Frances Smith Crissman with daughter Helen Jo Crissman around 1903


 She died before she met my mother, her first grandchild, of cancer. 

She Changes Everything

 

I once had a perplexing discussion with a young teenage girl who asked, 
 
" What purpose do the really old people have in this world "? 

It has been over a year since Dad died, which also marks how long Mom has been in Parc Provence memory care. I have heard the echoes of this teenager's question many times since. 

I see the disease of dementia every day as I punch in codes to unlock the two doors to visit my aging Mama. She still knows me and smiles and waves as I enter the second sealed door to her household dining room. 

She has trouble feeding herself but is persistent with her fork, that she insists on using for everything...even her melted ice-cream. Her hand shakes and she dribbles her food and saliva down her blouse all while trying to wipe her dripping nose. Her posture for even seeing and then swallowing her food is so compromised they have recently added a drug store neck brace and all pureed food to aid her in both. 

As I ask about her day her few uttered words are nearly a whisper of her once familiar soothing voice; she has little wind to force her sound to spill out.  Conversation with her is nearly gone. If I ask her questions like, 

"Did Dad like cars"? 

she answers with a definitive 

" Yes "

and there was that time I asked her if dad was a good kisser and she declared 

" No "

She still knows the real stuff. 

When I leave her she grabs me tight and kisses me with her wet lips and says,

" I sure love you" 

I am her child again. 

I leave and promise her I will come to see her the next day and all the days after that.  
 
When this schedule first began I reminded myself that I was doing what dad would want me to do. But recently my self-congratulating thoughts have shifted to serious questions; Am I here for her or is she here for me? Who is strengthening who?

Granted I feel better every time I see her but, ya know, I've known her my whole life and she's my Mom. Am I feeling something that grows out of my memories of her that fill in the cracks left by her disease? 

Maybe. 

Nurse Cyndy Peterson tells me that as each tenant enters the dining area for meals, Mom hits the table she is seated at and when people look at her she stops and smiles brightly. I've actually seen this smile without the table banging. Her whole face is bright, and most of the light is in her eyes. Mom is making a clear decision to make someone feel seen, loved even. 

When CNA Patty comes into her room Mom recognizes her and sends her a barrage of air kisses. If Patty approaches her she gets the kisses on her cheek. Patty always smiles. I see the love there too.

Sylvia, a household member, deals with anxiousness each night when she hits that difficult sundowning phase. Sylvia pretends she can't walk and wails for attention. Sylvia approaches caretakers with a sobbing voice or demanding screams; why am I here?! , where is my son!!?  and who do I need to pay to take care of the services so I can leave?!! 

Mom takes the fear out of Sylvia. In the midst of one of her tantrums, if Mom can get her attention, Sylvia settles immediately. The nurses have noticed too and I know why they place Sylvia in my Mother's dining area. 

The more I payed attention the more evidence was revealed ; there's front desk Julie and other residents and caretakers who thank Mom for her piano music that fills the small household called Park View. There are the ladies from my ward who offer to visit her while I'm out of town and want to keep going when I return. There's the stranger I met at Jackman's fabrics who knows Mom and shared all the ways my Mom cared for her. And then the Stake YW president who was in Mom's ward 25 years ago who said Mom would bring stickers for her kids or help this young mom when her hands were full in Sacrament meeting. 

Despite my prayers that Mom be relieved of this life, to join my Dad and many people there who love her, I know she is still here for a reason; she has tremendous purpose. I have learned and been changed by her continuing effort to mourn with those that mourn and comfort those who need comfort. She may have forgotten something that occurred 15 seconds earlier but she still knows who she is and what she wants to be when she does finally return. 

it should be noted here that when I asked her if she wanted to sing,  she immediately broke into the chorus of LOVE AT HOME (this was a first since her go-to is usually Blue Skies)

 







Maymie Rebecca Katherine Crissman married Willard Elwin Shinkle

Pictured here are parents Sally and Elwin with their three daughters, Joanna Claire Shinkle, Mary Rebecca Shinkle (Becky) and Helen Virginia Shinkle. 

The Three Crissmans

My grandmother was the only one that married of these three siblings. Grandma Sally had three beautiful children... all daughters.  I am grateful every day for her courage and unbelievable strength that she lived by despite many many hardships in life.

Four Generations of Strong Women

Mary Rebecca Riley with her daughters, granddaughters and great-granddaughters on her 90th birthday in 1942.

Our Beautiful Mother

Joanna Claire Shinkle Nicklin with her firstborn son, John Maurice Nicklin. Her mother-in-law, Florence Martha Olver Nicklin looks on. Year was 1958

The Nicklin Family Crest

Nicklin Family Crest




Mom and Dad...movie stars. I love mom's monogram on her blouse.








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The beautiful Joanna Claire Shinkle Nicklin.

Joanna with sister Mary Rebecca ( Becky) and Helen Virginia



My grandmother, Elizabeth Isabel Wishart, was born in Cadmus, Linn, KS. 25 Mar 1868. She died 7 January 1953 in Garnett, KS. I was there for her funeral. Her parents were married in Topeka, KS. August 26, 1862. Her father owned farm property in 1860 in Kansas,so her family lived in Kansas during the Civil War which was a very dangerous place to live since the southerners wanted to overrun Kansas and make it a southern state. Her family had come to the United States in the 1840’s and lived in Wisconsin for many years. Several of her family members died fighting in the Civil War. She basically lived in that part of Kansas all her life and that is where she met her husband, William Grant Shinkle. You can see by the name they were in favor of the north and very anti‐ slavery. They never tried to own slaves.
Grandmother and Grandfather were married 26 Aug 1891 in Cadmus, KS. and celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary in Garnett, Ks. She was the mother of seven children one of whom died several days after birth. There were four living sons and two living daughters who were all raised in that part of Kansas, including my father.
She lived in a very modest home and grew up where they grew all their own produce and had farm animals. She learned to do lots of canning and did that all her life including meat products and vegetables and some fruits.
You could tell by the sweet, kind children she had that she was a very kind and loving mother. They were all hard workers and very careful spenders which she taught them to be. In my early years I visited her several times and she was always very kind to me and interested in my life and stories.
As you know the Wishart name is a very important name historically since it was one of their ancestors that translated the Bible and made it accessible to the public. He was hung in Scotland for doing that. 
Charles H. Sherwood wrote letters to his sister, Maria Taylor, during the duration of which he was a Union soldier during the civil war. He died in Andersonville in 1864.





Charles H. Sherwood was brother to Martha Jane Sherwood ( Jennie). He was born around 1842, to Zelotus and Abigail Sherwood. Charles entered the US Cavalry about 1861, with friends from Carbondale, Luzerne County, PA. ( Pennsylvania Volunteers, 4th Cavalry/64th Regiment, Company M) Sgt. Sherwood was present at many Civil War battles. He fought at Gettysburg and his name is engraved on the Pennsylvania Memorial there. Sgt. Sherwood was captured October 12, 1863, at White Sulphur Springs, VA, along with 300 other Union troops from the Pennsylvania Fourth and Thirteenth Cavalry. Initially, he was probably imprisoned at Belle Island, Richmond, VA, and later transferred to Andersonville, GA, about March 1864. Sgt. Sherwood died that June of dysentary. Five of Charles's Carbondale friends also died at Andersonville. Sgt. Charles H. Sherwood, American hero, my great uncle ( to ME Nicklin Jr.) was not married.
Pompa drove to Georgia last spring to visit Andersonville and to see Charles' grave.



Pictured is Gersham  Bentley Van Gorder with granddaughter Florence Martha Olver.

Gersham Bentley Van Gorder was father to Florence Maude Van Gorder Olver. He was the third husband to Martha Jane Sherwood ( Jennie) who was nine years his senior. Jennie previous husbands had all died and Jennie had three children already when she married Gershaw. Together Jennie and Gersham had four children, Fred, Frank, Homer and Florence. 

His baby cup and baby spoon with the initials GBV. 


William Grant Shinkle with Elizabeth Isabel Wishart with their children, Isabel, John, Harold, Wanda, Frank, Clarence and Willard Elwin, their youngest, our grandfather.
William Grant Shinkle was born August 31, 1865 in DeWitt, Ill. and moved to Kansas near Cadmus when only several weeks old. At age 17 he began teaching school, and continued for 27 years. The Parker Message had the following article. “The Twin Springs school closed Saturday. At the dinner hour the patrons of the district came in with well filled baskets and surprised the teacher and pupils. After dinner a nice program was rendered. At the close of the program Mr. Shinkle, the teacher, gave a very good talk complimenting the pupils on their regular attendance and good conduct. There was not a case of tardiness during the term. The school presented Mr. Shinkle with a very beautiful shaving set, consisting of a shaving glass, with heavy metal frame, scroll design in gold, shaving mug soap and tablet. Mr. Shinkle thanked the pupils in a few well chosen words. August 26, 1891 he married Elizabeth Isabel Wishart in Cadmus, Linn, KS. August 1909 the family moved to Mound City, Kansas. He served four years as deputy treasurer and four years as treasurer of Linn Co. KS. In December 1918 moved to Lone Elm and engaged in mercantile business. In 1926 he moved to Welda, KS 




Joanna Frances Smith was wife to Benjamin Frank Crissman, mother of Helen Jo, Willard and Maymie Rebecca Katherine ( our Grandma Sally) Grandmother Crissman is pictured here on the back right side ( in glasses) and daughters Helen and Sally are front and center. Back left is Mary Rebecca Riley Smith ( mother of Joanna Frances)
Joanna Frances Smith was born October 24, 1868 near Owenton, Kentucky, and died June 24, 1934 in Kansas City, MO. These dates express the brief expanse of her life, but no tongue nor pen could ever express the beauty, the love, and the service of that life.
On June 28, 1893 she married B. Frank Crissman and from this union three children were born: Helen, Willard, and Maymie all of whom survive her.
Mrs. Crissman began her Christian life in childhood, and a few day before she went to her eternal reward she said, “I am not afraid to die; I have loved God ever since I was a little girl”.
She was educated at the State Teachers’ College at Warrensburg, and at Park College in Parkville.
She was absolutely and wholly devoted to her family, her church, and Christ. During the 41 Years which she graced the Methodist parsonage like the queen that she was her whole life was given to the church so completely that she too could have said, “The zeal of thine house has eaten me up”. She was most active in every department of church work. In her Sunday School classes several young men were led to Christ and into the ministry of this Conference. She was aflame with the missionary spirit. Mrs. Crissman held many of the important offices of the W.F.M.S. in the local, conference and national organization.
She was a great lover. She almost worshipped her family. She loved the people of all the churches she served. She sought out the strangers and those least socially inclined, and loved them in such a way that they loved her Lord. She loved the preachers. To her “How beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of him that bringeth good tidings, that publisheth peace, that bringeth good tidings of good, that publisheth salvation; that saith unto Zion, Thy God reigneth! No one ever heard her utter a disparaging word about any of Christ’s ministers. How she loved the preachers’ wives! It was no accident that she was chosen president of the Conference Preachers’ Wives organization, and it is no disparagement to others that she was often spoken of as the best loved woman in Conference. 
Willard Crissman with his mother Joanna Frances Smith Crissman.




Mary Rebecca Riley is pictured here with her great-granddaughter, Joanna Claire Shinkle. Her daughter, Joanna Frances Smith died shortly before Joanna Shinkle was born in 1934
Mary Rebecca Riley Smith


Claude Earl Olver (Pompa's grandfather) Claude Earl Olver set a very high bar for honesty, integrity, and service. He was treasurer of the Carbondale (PA) Methodist Church for 37 years...Past Master of Lodge 249 Masons, and the Recording Secretary for 16 years...Past Commander of Carbondale Knights Templar...Head Cashier of Miners and Mechanics Bank...honorary Director of Carbondale YMCA. He was Manager of Berry's Furniture Store before retiring. While bank Head Cashier, Claude notified the bank examiners that the bank president was embezzling funds. This was during the U.S. Great Depression, in 1931. Claude was aware this action would cost him his job. The bank was forced to close. Claude had encouraged friends to invest in the bank's stock, but they never lost any money, because he and his wife, Florence, sold their home and made good their losses. They never owned another home. Claude was forty-eight at the time. (The rest of the story: The bank president came to Claude's home to kill him, but was intercepted by his assigned policeman guard. Claude was an excellent athlete, playing team baseball and recognized as an outstanding tennis player in the area.) A great man in our family, Claude Earl Olver.
Florence Maude with daughter Florence Martha in the first photo. Next photo is Claude with family dog, Buddy. Last photo is Claude with daughter Florence Martha, who was their only child. Claude and Beautiful referred  to each other as Dad and Mommy. 
This is the home Claude and Beautiful sold to repay the investers. They never again owned a home.